Sibling rivalry is “a competition between siblings especially for the attention, affection, and approval of their parents.” This means that siblings are having a competition against each other to get their parents to like them more. That is not a good thing. You should support your siblings. Well, what do you do if you have sibling rivalry?
One morning at home, I started thinking about my loss at the chess tournament. I thought of my brother who got all the good things, “won at the chess tournament,” “won at the writing competition,” “got a good teacher,” “got on the pre-swim team,” and “got on a really good basketball team.” I felt so unhappy that I decided to stop letting my brother use my Diamond Membership chess account. Obviously, my brother told on me. That morning my mom had a discussion with me about sibling rivalry. She told me that I had it. She said that I should let my brother use my account. You should support your brother. Not get jealous of him, she reminded me. Slowly I understood that even if I felt my brother had better things than me, I had to support him, encourage him, just like he did to me. I finally told my brother the changed password of my account. I definitely learned a lesson; never be jealous of a sibling.
If you are having sibling rivalry, a parent should have an open discussion with you. Just like my mom had with me. Also, think of things you’ve had that your sibling has not. We are all good at different things and get things at different time in life. Also if your sibling is good at things, it benefits you; you can learn from them. If your sibling has a problem, you can help them and they can learn from you! All of these strategies can inspire siblings to work with each other through learning, teaching, and having fun rather than being jealous of each other.
Here is the post I did on the day I was miserable after I didn't make it to the chess travel team and my brother did: My loss at the chess tournament.
Writing Girl (WG)